Hello friends! I expect you’re in the midst of at least 15 things right now, and I want have a little talk about it. No, I’m not talking about the 15 browser tabs you’re multitasking (we can discuss that another day;) I’m talking about your life and all of the changes, adjustments and adaptations that are happening.
Truth is, we are all constantly changing and adjusting to outside STUFF. As we develop and as life evolves, we are asked to adapt to changes on a daily, even minutely basis. With technology speeding up much of what we do in life, our ability to adjust and readjust is key in our ability to move forward and grow with life.
Allow me a little story here… I recently had to write a letter for a client explaining to an insurance company the details of her diagnosis – adjustment disorder. At its core adjustment disorder means that someone is having trouble adjusting to a change, something outside of themselves. It could even be a positive change! Getting married, having a baby, completing a course of study, as well as things like losing a loved one, moving, or job changes are all common reasons for someone to seek therapy and to have the most fitting diagnosis (language to speak to insurance companies) be an adjustment disorder.
What I pointed out in my letter to the insurance company, and what I am emphasizing to you now, is that we all are continuously adjusting to life’s changes, and it’s quite common to have changes pile up, or have a few that feel more challenging & take longer to adjust to. It is common to be stressed because a relationship ends, as well as to experience the stress of adapting when a new one begins!
Whether its EUSTRESS (good things happening) our DISTRESS (sh*t hitting the proverbial fan) change asks us to adapt. And change is happening all the time. Change is always in style.
Lets plant a yoga seed, shall we? In yoga, there is a dualistic belief (stay with me now) that there is the CHANGING world (we’d call that Prakriti) and an unchanging soul self (the Seer, or Purusha). Like my mom has said many times as she’s aged (gracefully and beautifully, I might add!), “I don’t FEEL any different!” Purusha is that part of ourselves that does not feel any different, that observes and relates to the changing world but does not change itself.
Can you get a sense of that now? That feeling of YOU that has always been YOU and that transcends time, relationship, role and any label that can be slapped over it?
What would happen if you could live more fully from that space?
This is one reason yoga has become so popular in the last few decades – people are using it to find and stay connected to this DEEP and TRUE sense of self, even as the world accelerates and threatens to throw us around in the strong currents of change.
The thing is, the more we can all stay connected to this space, the better off we all are and the more likely it will be that the currents of life we humans create will be in alignment with a deeper source of love, connection and empathy. Because for most all of us, that is what life comes down to. You never hear someone on their deathbed say, “I wish I’d made more money.” At the end of our days we often call upon what has been most important: people we love and our connection to them.
Now, a few things for you to ponder:
- What beautiful and challenging changes are you adjusting to in your life right now?
- What helps you to stay connected to that purest, deepest sense of YOU? (Yoga is not the only answer!)
- How can keeping this connection to your deepest soul self help those around you?
As always, I’d love to hear from you, so go ahead and post your comments below! Share what changes you are going through, how you stay connected to your timeless self and how it serves you, and others, when you do.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
With unchanging love,