As I write this, the 2013 year is coming to a close, and I want to share some TIMELESS, practical inspiration that is good for all of us. 😀
Yes, endings are a great time to look back, to reflect on the achievements, twists, turns and surprises of the year. While some people scoff at the arbitrary nature of the new year as a new beginning, it is important for us psychologically to have a way to structure, assess, and work with our lives – and the new year is a great time to harness the group energy around these new beginnings. Weather you do it with the calendar, the seasons, or your own internal rhythm, it’s a good thing to take a moment to wrap up (or clear out, as it may be) the old, and open up to something new.
So today, whenever it is that you read this, think about what in your life is ending. This ending could be something out of your control – a job change, a season, a relationship – or it may be internal – a way of being that doesn’t serve you anymore. Make a list of four or five things that you are transitioning or wrapping up in your life right now.
Time for a great ritual. 😀 Got some leftover Xmas paper hanging around? Grab it, write up that list, and WRAP IT! Or you can flex your origami skillz. Now, I prefer the fire method (I’ve always been a bit of a pyro;) but if you’re in tight quarters and fire isn’t safe you can always flush it too. If you can, find a safe place to BURN this little baby!
As it burns affirm what you are letting go of. Notice what emotions arise. Rarely does our modern pace of life give us time to acknowledge endings and transitions (situational ADD, I like to call it), so see how it feels to give this your full attention as you do it. When difficult emotions arise, expression and acceptance are often helpful.
On a roll? If you want to get fancy, do this again with your recent accomplishments (they are yours forever!) and what you are hoping will change for the better. As the lists of accomplishments burns, let yourself feel the successes you have achieved and enjoy the completeness. As you burn the hopes for the future, let it be like a prayer, sending it off to a power beyond yourself.
Once your inner pyro is substantially satisfied, take a moment to reflect on the horizon ahead of you. If you’re anything like me, your goals stack up faster than post-Thanksgiving dishes. Try this one on for size. As your goals stack up and gain momentum, reconnect with the part of you that feels compassion, tenderness, and love for yourself. We can (I certainly can!) fall into the delusion that we can control the future if we just plan hard enough. Planning is AWESOME but there is more at stake here, and what’s the point of getting anywhere if you’re stressing & forcing it the whole way?
Make a promise to yourself. Compassionately, tolerantly promise that you will keep getting on the wagon. Weather you want more health, better relationships, more wealth, more time, or less stress. If you really want to commit to something, commit to saddling up again and again. It may not be a sexy new years resolution but if you have goals worth reaching, they are worth getting back on the wagon for.
Now I’d love to hear from you! What are you leaving behind, and what is worth getting back on the wagon for alllll year? Leave your comment in the space below.
Sending you loads of love,